Wedding invite wording
What should your wedding invitations actually say? And what are the must have details to make sure you have on your wedding invitations? Remember, your wedding invites set the tone and style of your wedding; this includes the wording style. Regardless, all wedding invitations should include the following elements:
- Who’s hosting
- The request to come to the wedding
- The names of the bride and groom or couple
- The day, date and year
The ceremony location and time
- The reception location and time
- Dress code
- RSVP by and to whom
The Host Line: Who's hosting?
Traditionally, the bride’s parents are the hosts of the wedding and are named at the top of the invitation – even for very formal affairs. However, including the names of both sets of parents as hosts is a gracious option, no matter who foots the bill. Also, more and more couples these days are hosting their own weddings, or do so together with their parents.
If it’s a collaborative affair hosted and paid for by the bride, groom and both sets of parents, you can also use “Together with their parents, Kellie and Adam request the pleasure of your company …”
What if any parents are deceased?
If you want to include the name of a parent who is deceased, you’ll need to rearrange things a bit as someone who has passed can’t actually serve as a host. An alternate way to include a deceased parent just means rearranging the wording a bit. EG:
Ken Williams and the late Margaret Williams
Archie and Ina Macnab
What to do if any parents are divorced and/or remarried?
If the bride or groom’s parents are divorced and you want to include both as hosts, you can include them all – just keep each parent on a separate line. If you’re going to include the name of step-parent, keep it on the same line. This is an example of a bride with divorced (and remarried) parents’ wedding invitation wording:
Ken and Margie Williams
and Ann Bermann
Archie and Ina Macnab
The Request Line: Please Come!
There are many ways to ask for the pleasure of your guests’ company. Here are few options:
- “the pleasure of your company”
- “at the marriage of their children”
- “would love for you to join them”
- “invite you to celebrate with them”
- “honour of your presence”
The Names of the Bride and Groom or Couple
If their names haven’t been included in the host line, they should still take centre stage a few lines down. No one would forget to add this to a wedding invitation, of course, but you might be wondering whose name should go first on a wedding invitation. Traditionally the name of the bride always precedes the groom’s name. Formal invitations issued by the bride’s parents refer to her by her first and middle names, the groom by his full name and title; if the couple is hosting by themselves, their titles are optional.
For a same-sex marriage, of course, the traditional rule of woman first and man second isn’t applicable. You can choose to go in alphabetical order or choose what sounds better. Whether it’s “Annie & Chloe” or “Chloe & Annie,” it’s going to be perfect either way.
The Date and Time
In Australia, we write it as Day, Date, Month, Year and we don’t include punctuation between;
Saturday 25th November 2019
It is American to write it as follows:
Saturday November 25th, 2019
Put the full correct name of the locations, so if your guests need to Google it, they will be able to find it. Postcodes aren’t necessary on the invite.
If the ceremony and reception are held in the same location, you would put the full venue name, address, and then the ceremony time and reception time after.
This tells your guests everything is at the 1 location
141 Caversham Avenue
Ceremony begins at 3pm in the Hidden Gardens
immediately followed by refreshments and a formal dinner reception in the Marquee
If you are having 2 locations – 1 for ceremony and 1 for reception
Ceremony commences at 3:00pm
St Mary’s Catholic Church
100 Hay Street, Perth
With a formal dinner reception to follow at 6:00pm
Astral Ballroom, Crown Plaza
200 Burswood Drive, Burswood
It is entirely up to you if you would like to put a dress code on. We suggest a dress code if you would be upset that your guests didn’t dress appropriately for your wedding, or if you feel your guests may need a little guidance with this.
EG: if someone is like to turn up in jeans
Dress code – is the line after the locations and before the RSVP
EG: Dress: Formal Attire
Even if you decide to include a separate post-back RSVP card, you still want to put it on the bottom of the invite:
EG: Kindly RSVP by 1st September 2018
And if you are NOT doing a separate RSVP card, then your RSVP line reads:
EG: Kindly RSVP by 1st September 2018 to Margie 0400 044 000 / email@example.com